When marriages come to a point of no return and separation seems like a reasonable step, there are various options to consider for moving forward. One path that has been increasing in popularity is mediation, where the couple contracts a third-party, otherwise known as a mediator, to listen and resolve issues. Unfortunately, there has been inaccurate information regarding mediation that turns away potential couples who can benefit from mediation. Listed below is the actual definition of mediation, along with debunking the myths associated with mediation.
There are some states that mandate mediation for settling cases. When lawyers are supportive of the process, they can be helpful, advising their clients along the way and ensuring fairness in any deal before signature. Yes, it is true some lawyers oppose mediation, but the culture is changing as the benefits of mediation are becoming obvious.
The biggest fallacy many believe about mediation is it draws out the divorce process. This is far from the truth. In most cases, mediation is quicker and much more time and cost-efficient than litigation.
Another fallacy associated with mediation is that the mediator decides custody of children and how assets are split. Mediators do not have decision making authority. They can share their wisdom and experience, but the couple makes all decisions. If there is no agreement at the end of the mediation, the private, confidential process is over.
In summary, mediation is an excellent option for most couples. They can preserve their dignity and integrity, which allows them to work together co-parenting their children. Life can go on peacefully.